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Pre-suit mediation helps the parties evaluate the circumstances from a different perspective, and often results in a win-win solution that can be so elusive in a traditional adversarial divorce.

Unfortunately, when couples go down the road of contested divorce litigation, it is common for them to get so bogged down by the thought of winning that they lose focus on the issues and instead cling to their positions. The nature of the adversarial system means their lawyers, no matter how well-intentioned, will also focus on positions, rather than the issues underlying those positions. This is a recipe for emotional and financial disaster, and it happens every single

Pre-suit mediation is still your best option, even when your spouse is reluctant to bring up the subject of divorce.

It is not uncommon for one person to approach the breaking point of a marriage and begin contemplating the possibility of divorce before his or her spouse entertains such thoughts. Even after the subject has been raised, one spouse will often be ready to move forward with ending the relationship, while the other believes the marriage can be saved through counseling or otherwise, and refuses to even face the possibility of divorce. In fact, although I strongly prefer to meet with both spouses for an

Constantly fighting and unable to agree on anything? Pre-suit mediation is still your best option for successfully navigating the rough seas of divorce.

Many people believe that pre-suit divorce mediation is only available to couples who get along relatively well and are already in agreement on most of the issues.  Couples who constantly argue assume that their only option is to hire aggressive and expensive divorce lawyers to fight it out for them in court.  Unfortunately, nothing could be further from the truth. Even the most conscientious divorce lawyers can end up fanning the flames and making things worse for couples, based on the

Pre-suit mediation does not replace professional counseling, which is sometimes necessary in transitioning through a divorce

Pre-suit divorce mediation is definitely a healthier option than a traditional adversarial divorce, as it allows divorcing couples to take charge and retain control over important decisions that are highly personal and specific to their circumstances, rather than surrendering the matter to a judge that is truly a stranger to the family.  The nature of pre-suit mediation as opposed to lawyer-driven, contested litigation typically provides for a much quicker recovery from the trauma of divorce, and when children are involved,

Pre-Suit Divorce Mediation Helps Protect Children From Further Trauma

When a divorcing couple has minor children, the law requires issues of parental responsibility, timesharing and child support to be resolved in the best interest of the children.  In the traditional adversarial divorce or paternity proceeding, the judge is tasked with deciding these issues if the parents are unable to reach an agreement, and due to the ever-expanding family court dockets and the overall nature of litigated proceedings, the judge will have to make such decisions based solely on the

Pre-suit divorce mediation allows the parties to control the process and the outcome for a fraction of the cost of traditional adversarial divorce.

Divorce is a traumatic and difficult situation under the best of circumstances, and most people facing the process will hire the best attorney they can afford to help them weather the storm and come out on top.  Unfortunately, undertaking a traditional adversarial divorce in this manner almost always leads to a complete surrender of control to the lawyers and the court, including both the process and the ultimate outcome.  Thankfully there is another option, namely pre-suit mediation, which allows the

The Importance of Confidentiality

Confidentiality is a critical aspect of pre-suit divorce mediation, allowing the parties to discuss the intimate details of their marriage in a private setting and resolve their issues without creating a permanent public record. Traditional adversarial divorce proceedings are conducted in courts of public record, and are litigated in much the same manner as any other lawsuit, even though they typically involve issues that are extremely intimate and personal. Pre-suit mediation is a very different process that requires the parties to

Feelings of anger, betrayal and loss are very common when divorcing.  Resist the temptation to make a bad situation even worse, and consider pre-suit mediation instead of traditional adversarial divorce.

It goes without saying that most people experience severe trauma when contemplating divorce, and that feelings of anger, betrayal and loss can linger for a very long time depending on the circumstances.  In the late 60s, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross developed the now-familiar model describing the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.  It is easy to see how these emotions can arise when people are divorcing and grieving the loss of a serious relationship. Although it is very normal

Divorcing? For a healthier option, consider pre-suit mediation instead of a traditional adversarial divorce.

It is well-known that stress and physical ailments often go hand in hand, and that we should all strive to reduce the stress in our daily lives. One of the most stressful and traumatic life events is divorce. Unfortunately, the typical adversarial divorce only makes things worse, continually reopening wounds over an extended period, and preventing the healing from occurring in a healthy, natural and affordable manner. I have dedicated my career to providing an alternative, namely pre-suit mediation, which